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Pets Who Grieve Other Pets
1) A grieving pet needs positive reinforcement, and that can take many forms. The animal who is "depressed" needs extra attention from the human companions, sitting for treats, petting, massage, and grooming if the animal enjoys that.  
2) Don't fall into the trap of "reassuring" or "being sympathetic" with the pet. This activity is often misinterpreted by the pet as praising this behavior, and only causes it to increase.
3) Some people think it is helpful for the surviving pet to see and or sniff the deceased pet or owner. It is unknown if this helps, but probably varies according to the pet. Some people who had done this report the pet seems uninterested in the body, because it is obvious to them their friend is not there. In some cases, the owner thinks less of the pet because they were not "respectful" and therefore it actually gets in the way of the surviving relationships. 
4) A typical "grieving process" takes about 30 to 60 days to run its cycle. 
5) Whether the animal is grieving because its pet friend or human caregiver is gone, realize that in the case of the canine social structure the loss of the leader is significant and the pet really needs to have another human step into that role. Provide strong leadership in the form of giving and insisting on compliance with commands, then extra praise and affection as a reward. Cats can get the extra attention for free. 
6) If the animal is not eating, increase the taste of the food. Be sensible and avoid overly fat-laden foods and try delectable meats, cheeses, biscuits, etc. in small quantities to flavor the regular pet food. 
7) After a month or so, consider providing a new canine or feline companion. Be aware that this may increase the grieving pet's anxiety and might be counterproductive. If either the grieving pet or the human caregiver is geriatric or infirm, adding another animal to the household can be a negative. Some pets respond very positively, but this is not predictable. Recommendation is to "borrow" a pet or do a trial before committing to a new family member. 
The grieving pet will probably do better eventually, and the decreased activity, appetite, and "zest for life" will return.

The grieving pet will probably do better eventually and decreased activity, appetite, and "zest for life" is probably transient.

9) If there is a large amount of anxiety for a prolonged period, antianxiety meds can be prescribed by the veterinarian (or behaviorist if the clients seek the help of a specialist).  
10) Some veterinarians as well as friends may not be supportive or sympathetic or knowledgeable of this grieving-pet-condition, but it is real and treatable like any behavioral disorder.
11) Increase exercise as much as possible. Exercise is one of nature's natural stress relievers. For dogs, this includes playing with them with a ball, Frisbee, chase a stick, and lots of leash walking. For cats, this means using toys, a laser pointer or dragging a string.
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